A letter to my Daughters....

My Sweet, beautiful, little darlings ~

You are the light of my life. Your very presence gives me happiness - in a way most cannot understand. On MOST days, I am smiling. And I want you to know that life is happy.

This world that we live in is full of beauty, and I want you to see it.


I want you to see the Beauty in everything. Look around you. Beauty is not just someones appearance. It is everywhere. Those clouds in the sky....The way that the raindrops hit the trees and tumble down from leaf to leaf. How the Sunset paints the sky with oranges, pinks, and purples. The way that snow cradles each branch after a snowfall.

The world that we live in is meant to be heard :

Yes the sound of  birds in the morning on a chilly spring morning is delightful and brings such joy to a cup of coffee. But listen to everything, to the way others compliment each other. If you are anything like your mama you will fall in love with the sound of the Ocean. The way the waves caress the sand and bounce back and forth. Embrace music. I can honestly say it got me through some of my worst days, and complimented my best. To have listening ears, is one of the best qualities a girl can have. It will make you a great friend, partner, and person. Sometimes the only thing we need is to be heard. And I promise you my sweet girls - I will always listen. I may not agree but I will hear you, and help you.

This is where Mama and Daddy spent the day listening to the waves crash in St Maarten on our honeymoon!

The world that we live in is full of flavor :

Much like your Daddy taught me, just try it. Does Calamari sound gross? Yep, I mean squid ? really? But thankfully, I tried it and it is amazing! And do me a favor, eat that ice cream, or tiramisu. Indulge in cheesecake and pastries. Every once in a while, treat yourself. Life is far too short to be miserable. But I will say this, cigarettes, drugs, and alcohol can be your worst enemy. I have watched it take the lives of so many. It can destroy you from the inside out. a glass of wine or beer never hurt anyone, but excessive use  can turn you into someone bad. Do not rely on them to fix you, they will slowly tear you down.  

The world that we live in is full of culture :
Go out and travel, see the world. For your experiences in life, will be the best teacher of humanity that you will ever learn.  This world has so much to offer, please do travel. I have had some truly amazing experiences ...and even as babies - so did you!

The world that we live in is full of strength. 
Sometimes, bad things happen to good people. I know this all too well. If you see someone starving, give them food. If someone is sick or lonely - visit them. If someone is heartbroken, help them , talk to them. And do it for nothing more than the full feeling you walk away with in your heart. The most amazing feeling in the world is to help someone, to make a difference in their life. To dry their tears, and replace it with a smile or laughter. In a world full of selfishness, be humble. Be graceful and loving. Do not worry about what others think of you. The most attractive thing about a girl should be her heart, not her face.

Photo : Sarah at Posh Portraits

 The world that we live in is full of faith :
 I will say my faith in God helped me. Even when you are mad - Pray to him. Do not forget about God, Faith, and Jesus.....But please, use your brain. So many people say ...if it's Gods will, or Your destiny is already written - and just stop using common sense. Don't be that person. God gave you a brain, and common sense for a reason. Let your faith and your mind work together to guide you. Be a good person. Don't hurt others intentionally. Live like Christ, Believe in Christ, and Love Christ.


The world that we live in is full of feeling :
 Please, do not ever discredit somebody's feelings. Even if you feel you are right . ALWAYS THINK before OPENING YOUR MOUTH. Words alone can break a person. Try and relate to their pain, rather than your opinion. There are many people who think that they are always right, and just say hurtful things as if to prove a point. Nobody likes a harsh and cold person around. Speak to others with respect and dignity. Do not belittle others in a condescending manner. We are all humans. We all have fault, and nobody is perfect. Let God judge. Your job is to love others, and have compassion.

If you do not have anything nice to say, be silent. There are many alternatives to being an asshole.

The world that we live in is full of equality :

In life you will learn we all look different. Some people may have different hair eyes and skin. Some people will have disabilities, or illnesses. But always God made us ALL beautiful my little darlings. Know this. Do not be afraid to make friends with someone who is a different race or ethnicity. It is a beautiful thing. We all have hearts so full of love and potential. We all come from different walks of life, and surely can teach each other something new.

The world that we live in is full of hope :
No matter what may happen to you, always keep pushing forward. I thought I was going to die, but every day I saw your pretty little faces, heard your sweet little voices, felt your tiny kisses on my lips, and felt your baby arms hug me - I knew that I wasn't leaving yet. Your Daddy's love, and your love gave me strength from within to conquer my cancer. You are stronger than you will ever know.



 


 

All that I wanted was for you to be healthy. And my wish came true

I have never shared this photo until now. So Emotional. I was just thinking , I cannot leave this precious baby .

 The world that we live in is full of Love :

Photo:Veronica Wright

Photo: Maria Sharron

                                                       Love really does conquer all



Be the best damn lady you can be. That said, you can curse a little, just not at the ones you love. Life is short, PLEASE live life to the fullest, I learned that in my early thirties. Whatever it is you want to do , Do it. But listen to Mama and Daddy, because we love you so much ! We love you with every breath we take. Have manners. Be respectful - but please don not lose your sense of dignity. If people mistreat you over and over, move on. Do not let others bully you. I do not care who it is...I do not care if it is a boy with a million dollar smile - or the girl you have been friends with for 8 years. Be strong. Pray for those who hurt you. You can show forgiveness - and it doesn't mean you have to be friends with everyone. When you stand up for yourself against someone who did you wrong - you become a better person. You are WORTH it . If someone breaks your heart ( which I hope they never do) pick yourself up, wipe your tears, and look in the mirror at the beautiful person staring back in the reflection. Throw on some heels, lipstick, and a cute outfit and thank God for putting you on a different path. I would have never ended up with your Amazing daddy, My prince charming, if I didn't realize there were a few frogs along the way. You will meet your happily ever after, Please don't give your everything to someone who doesn't treat you how you want to be treated. If something feels wrong, it probably is. Trust your instincts.

Always know that you can come to Mama and Daddy . Always. We are here for you. Anytime at all. We wanted you both oh so much. you are our hearts, our life , our everything.

I pray one day you can experience the absolute joy and love of being a parent too.

Love,
Mama